Losing someone you love to death is a hard thing.
But what seems unfair are the anniversaries that come year after year to remind you.
This past Monday, December 10, would have been my 35th wedding anniversary.
But because my dear husband lost his battle to cancer two years ago on December 11, we didn’t get to celebrate.
As I got ready to start the day Tuesday, a wave of depression swept over me saying, “Take the day off. Stay in bed and grieve. You deserve it.”
Then I thought, “I have a choice here. I can either take the day off and wallow in self pity or I can get up and make it a great day.”
As soon as I chose to make it a great day, the darkness left and I was suddenly filled with energy to tackle whatever lay before me.
That day, event after event occurred that blessed me.
I never felt that unprofitable attitude of self-pity for the entire rest of the day.
During my nightly assessment at the end of the day, I realized how profitable the day had been in so many ways.
As we continue through the holidays here at the end of the year, we may be tempted to take a day off to wallow in self pity and grief.
We may get agitated with the fast pace and commercialization of the season and lose our holiday joy.
We may even experience depression due to past relationships or unfortunate experiences that have soured our memories.
Whatever it is that you are dealt in the coming weeks, deal with them quickly and don’t put them off.
If they seem bigger than you, realize that they are not.
Potentially, they can become disasters or they can become victories.
Give each one as it comes to the God who created you.
You cannot handle all the stresses life throws at you on your own. All you can do is give them each to Jesus.
He died to set you free from sin and death.
He died so that you might live and live abundantly.
He is for you, not against you.
We about to celebrate His birth in a few short days.
If He was just an historical figure, why is it that so much of the civilized world honors his birthday on the 25th of December?
And how is it that all of time rotates around his life on earth?
He was not just another “good man” or “prophet.” He was and is the King of Kings and the Savior of mankind.
He chose to give up His life in heaven to bring us back into right relationship with His Father God.
He could have felt sorry for Himself but He didn’t.
He made a good choice.
Now all of mankind can benefit from His decision.
So as you go about your day, remember that you have choices.
You can either lie down and feel sorry for yourself OR you can go out and make it a wonderful day for someone else.
By doing so, you will be blessed.
The choice is up to you.
If you have a spouse, forgive him or her for not being perfect.
Accept your partner as the Lord does, a work in progress, but not for the purpose of passing judgement on his or her opinions.
And be thankful that you even have a partner to share this amazing life with. You could be alone.
Eventually, you will be.
So cherish each minute of each day as if it were your last.
You never know when this life as you know it will be over.
Choose today to make this day a blessing to others.
Have a great weekend!
So many books, so little time…
who chooses to make THIS day wonderful!
P.S. If you are dealing with depression, please call someone you trust today. Don’t deal with it alone. God has placed someone in your life who cares about you and can help.
Make a good choice and call them today.